Boundaries

I'm marking this here. I need to remember it:

Biblical compliance needs to be distinguished from [non-Biblical] compliance. Matthew 9:13 says that God desires "compassion, and not sacrifice." In other words, God wants us to be compliant from the inside out (compassionate), not compliant on the outside and resentful on the inside (sacrificial). Compliants take on too many responsibilities and set too few boundaries, not by choice, but because they are afraid.

-from Boundaries by Dr. Henry Cloud and Dr. John Townsend